First gay experience advice

Bottoming for the first time is a rite of passage, a moment of discovery, and maybe even a little adventure. You’ll learn a lot about yourself, your body, and your desires—and you’ll probably come out of it with a few stories to tell. Navigate Your First Gay Date With Confidence. Trust Your Instincts, Be Honest, And Learn From Each Experience To Find Meaningful Connections.

Learn More. Communicate your needs, and do accordingly. That sums up pretty much everything I guess. So yeah, yesterday I started dating my best friend. And since I'm new to this community, I wanted to ask all of you guys for relationship advice.

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I. Growing up gay is such an insular, isolating experience that it is easy to imagine you are alone and different in a bad way. This was the first time I realized I am not alone and I am different in a particularly good way. Information and tips for gay males seeking and planning a date to find a partner. People are all too quick to pigeonhole bisexual and pansexual guys.

Dating someone femme-presenting? Dating someone on the masculine side? Secretly gay and not ready to admit it. Dating a non-binary person who presents androgynously? Also gay, probably. These fundamental misconceptions swirl around mainstream gay scenes and straight spaces alike. Does that sound like you? In honour of Bisexuality Visibility Week, here are some pointers to help you navigate the terrain.

Not you? Maybe still read on, so you can understand our sexuality a little better. Sometimes we have a lot of unconscious internalised homophobia and biphobia that inhibits us from initially enjoying the experience.

Robert Hutchinson is a personal development coach and the co-founder of the Gay Happiness Project , a mindfulness-based group training programme for queer men. But in general, flirt the way you like to be flirted with. Make eye contact, smile, ask questions, listen. Chatting and messaging and seeing if you get on with people is a decent start. This could be a non-issue.

If not, find a guy who is. Feeld , on the other hand, has been a reliable source of queer sex and straight group sex for me. Unfortunately, bi and pan guys have to put up with a tornado of assumptions and stereotypes. All bullshit — although personally, I am slutty, so feel free to slide into my DMs. These biphobic beliefs have knockon effects on our community. Compared to 63 percent of gay men and lesbians, only 20 percent of bi people are out to all of their family, and two out of five of us have hidden or disguised our identity at work for fear of discrimination.

Side note: Many bi people also identify as pansexual, Cohen and myself included. Getting used to communicating assertively and confidently around your sexual identity is really important. In addition to all the above, find your community. Locate queer-friendly groups. Into gaming? Join a bi gaming subreddit. Into clubbing? Go to a filthy queer club night complete with a darkroom for happy endings.

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