Wife makes husband gay

When a wife discovers that her husband is gay, it can bring about a wide range of feelings and emotions for⁤ both partners. It’s⁤ important to approach the situation with empathy, open communication, and a willingness to seek support and guidance. Is my husband gay? is an unthinkable question to many wives, and some husbands do turn out to be gay. Learn the signs of a gay husband. After 21 years of marriage and 3 kids, my husband realized he was gay.

By standing by him, we all learned how stretchy love can be. My husband told me he was gay before we got married but that didn't change our feelings for each other — so now we have a happily mixed-orientation marriage. Kevin, 51, had been with his wife for seven years when she asked if he'd mind living in the spare room while she had a female partner. He'd had no idea she was gay. I am a gay man married to a woman who is asexual.

We love each other and want to stay together, but we don't know how to navigate sexuality. I have a high libido and desire sex with men. My wife, as an asexual, has no interest in sex, and I am not sexually attracted to her. She feels badly that she is not filling my needs. I don't feel that way at all. She feels that I would be breaking our marriage covenant if I were emotionally or sexually involved with a man.

I don't think that way at all, since sex has never been a part of our marriage, having sex with someone else isn't violating anything that we cherish as a couple in my mind. I'd like an open relationship where I could be sexually active yet true to her in every other way. She wants me to be celibate. It is not fair for her to ask you to remain celibate.

She does not understand what she is asking, as an asexual. I, myself, am asexual and I understand this is unfair to ask. I'm not sure how you should proceed, but know she is being unfair to you. Did your wife know you were gay before you decided to get married? If she thought she was signing up for a marriage where both partners would be celibate I can see how a change would be upsetting, but if she entered the marriage knowing you were gay, even if she were heterosexual much less asexual she cannot be surprised you expected to engage in partnered sex with men.

Neither of us had really self- identified our sexuality when we got married.

After 21 years of

There were red flags, but we thought being married would resolve the issues. It didn't. We have never had intercourse in 6 years of marriage, and I've been having sex with me on the DL. I've confessed my infidelity and we are trying to make a game plan. MichaelRP most likely as a gay sexually and romantically man I assume you're relatively young you are not going to be satisfied with a life of celibacy.

Especially since you never had a chance to explore that side of yourself freely. I don't doubt you love your wife very much, but if you are homo-romantic as well as homo-sexual, she's not able to fulfill those needs being a woman.

You may be perfectly satisfied and enthused at having her as a life partner but that part of you isn't going to go away. Obviously the the status quo isn't viable because you've cheated and she is upset by this. Marriage doesn't change someone's sexuality- not to say marriage has to be based on romantic feelings or sexual attraction, but there's a huge difference between assuming your marriage had these things and finding out it doesn't compared to knowing going in you were looking for companionship and life sharing.

I have been in several long term relationships, all of which were founded upon our needs. I stand my my opinion, than you very much,. She would be the one that would leave. I would never ask her to leave, but she might choose to if I return to being intimate with men occasionally. She considers it a sin to commit adultery, and would think it condoning the sin to stay with me.